Make a joke and I will sigh and you will laugh and I will cry
Happiness I cannot feel and love to me is so unreal”
– Black Sabbath
What is anxiety?
Anxiety can be an ally, until it takes the reigns, driving us out of control. For example, anxiety might pop up before an important meeting to remind us to prepare; it could appear as a motivator for pursuing a goal. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always notice that we have already prepared and it persists… Anxiety might want us to succeed, but it tricks us into believing that without it, we won’t.
What is depression?
Depression is a very big word, and it can mean a lot of different things. It might be the blues, it could be paralysis, maybe it’s overwhelming sadness; it could even look like anger or just a vast emptiness. Sometimes it introduces suicidality into our lives. It can frighten us and alarm our loved ones.
How can I help?
As we can expose anxiety’s lies, we can separate it from its co-conspirators. Without the fear, confusion, etc. in its corner, anxiety’s influence decreases. We can also find ways to recruit anxiety as an ally, transforming its influence to whatever we want it to be.
Finding a balance.
Throughout this process, I will support you in balancing anxiety and depression’s influence, discovering the ways that anxiety might be helpful, and finding ways of discarding what’s unhelpful. One of our most powerful tools will be compassion: We’re all human, and it might take a moment for us to accomplish our goals, to realize our potential, and to act on our values. It is possible and I can help.